The letter below is part of an ongoing series featuring letters from authors to their teen selves. If you're a published author who'd like to participate in this series, we'd love to have you. Just click here and let us know you're interested. Today's guest is Sara Bennett Wealer, author of Grave Things Like Love, which comes out Tuesday.
Dear Teenage Sara –
Figure out friendship. Otherwise you’ll be figuring it out in novels when you’re an adult.
I know you’re an introvert. I know you feel weird trying to make new friends. I also know you’ve made mistakes with the friends you do have—embarrassing mistakes that have turned some of them into “frenemies.” (Quotes because you don’t have this word in your vocab yet. Language evolves – just like people and relationships!)
And I know it’s tempting to think, “Well I’m going to college soon, and I’ll probably never see these people again, so it’s fine to coast along as a loner.”
But here’s the thing… In the future it will be easier than ever to connect with your past. You’ll look at those who are still close with their high school friends and think, “Dang, that looks nice. Those kids have turned into cool grown-ups.” Like I said, people evolve.
Which is not to say you won’t have ANYONE you can connect with from high school. You will. You’ll just have regrets on top of it, which will feel not-so-cool.
Sara as a teen